“Fear of Failure Is the Number One Reason Why People Don’t Live Up To Their Full Potential”
When God made you he throw away the key, we all have an important contribution to make to this world. The only question is, are you going to fulfil your own destiny or will you like the majority of others, go to the grave with the music inside you. This is one of the most important questions of your life. Are you going to fulfil your potential and become everything you are capable of? Only a small percentage of people in each generation live their lives to the full, functioning at their outer limited of their capabilities. The majority simply live lives of quiet desperation, feeling helpless and trapped in fear circumstances beyond their control about fears and doubts that hold them back.
Fear is and will always be the great enemy of human potential. More people are held back by fears, real and imagined, conscious and unconscious than any other factor. Children are born with only two fears, the fear of loud noises and the fear of falling. All other fears are learned as we grow up. If fear is the great enemy of human potential, especially the fear of failure, then the great business of success depends of the development of courage. Winston Churchill said “courage is rightly considered the foremost of the virtues upon all others depend”. You can always tell how strong you are as a person, by how willing you are to risk moving out of the comfort zone, towards the fulfilling of your potential.
The future belongs to the risk taker, they are the movers and shakers that make things happen. They have developed the habit of courage. Courage is the indispensable requirement of success. Kipling said “It’s not absence of fear but control of fear, mastery of fear which can be learned as all emotions are learned.” You can overcome your fears and develop the habit of courage by practising the behaviours of others who have done it before you. Remember only action is action. Only actions express your true beliefs and values. The first part of triumph is always try. Napoleon said, “No great battle are won on the defensive and only great battles produce great results.”
You develop courage by being courageous’ when every of your being is pulling you back towards safety in the comfort zone. General D MacArthur said, “There is no security in life, only opportunity”.
Seven principles to develop courage
1. Fear is caused by ignorance. The more you learn about any subject the less fear you have. Get the facts, separate the facts from the opinions, and strive for clarity.
2. When confronted by fear, step back and develop an organised response. Think on paper and review all the information. This will give a feeling of control with maximised effectiveness.
3. In any fearful situation stop and ask yourself, what is the worst thing that could happen here. Take time to develop a fall back plan if the worst scenario happens. All great generals go into with reserves of men and materials set aside to cover the retreat.
4. Fear of failure is a learned habit, a conditional response that can be un learned with practise. Mark Twain said, “Only antidote to fear is to do the thing you fear and of fear is certain.” Ask yourself this question, what great things would you dare to dream if you knew you could not fail? That could give you an idea of how much unconscious things hold you back.
5. Be decisive. Don’t sit on the fence. Make commitments to your job, your business, your family take a stand for what you believe in. Don’t be ‘wishy washy’. There is something about a principle person making and acting what they believe in. Opportunities open up for a man or women who act courageously. Assistance will come to you in ways you cannot predict.
6. Neutralise your fear of failure that inhibit effective action, by visualisation and positive affirmation by reprogramming yourself for success. Every time you visualise your goal and see it as already attained in your mind, you intensify your desire and diminish your fears.
7. Dorothy Brand in her best selling book, “Wake up and live”. Said she found a formula that turned her life around. In these words she said, “Go confidently in the direction of your dreams, and act as it was impossible to fail.” If you force yourself to act the part of a fearless, courageous person, in time it will stop being an act and become your reality.
Never consider the possibility of failure. Look upon temporary defeat as simply another way of learning how to succeed. If you have the willpower and determination to stay in there, nothing can stop you in the end. Remember these words from Calvin Collage
“Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence; talent will not, nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius wills not, unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education wills not, the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent”.
The key to success is having the courage to never give up on your goals, and dreams and press on and win through in your own personal race.